Swipe right: online dating for the real world Dating I want a casual hookup, not a relationship — how do I say that on Tinder? Swipe Right is our advice column that tackles the tricky world of online dating. This week: how to find a semi-regular hookup — and avoid scary messages Got your own online dating quandaries? After years of slowly losing my mojo and sexual confidence, I am slowly rediscovering my drives and desires and now want to find someone to explore that with. Basically, I want someone to have sex with and not much else. I am looking for a semi-regular hookup with someone I can get to know over time and explore my sexuality, but I am not ready to actually meet someone for the longer term. How on earth do I ask for this on an app like Tinder without getting scary messages? Hey, you. Good for you.